Cruel story of youth online dating
That said, research-based trend pieces are useful in the same way polemics are useful — to the extent they provoke further discussion.
And this research is based on a nationally representative sample of more than 25,000 American adults.
So here are my thoughts in brief on points made in the Washington Post article (edited here for clarity).
You’ll have others.“It’s a highly motivated, ambitious generation,” says Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist at Rutgers University and chief scientific adviser to the dating site
“Third-wave feminists seem to be crazy, saying that all men are participating in this rape culture.” He opts for porn instead. Abstinence may not be such a considered choice for everyone, though; there can also be environmental factors.
But it is also a decision to constrict the edges of one’s experience; it is a decision to disengage from that which induces greater vulnerability, and greater tenderness.
Rather than forgoing sex, we can be strive to be more creative and generous in our interpersonal relationships, whether they be sexual or otherwise.
That starts by thinking deeply about what we want so that we can articulate it to another person.
Compared with baby boomers, millennials look like nuns and priests. A culture of overwork and an obsession with career status, a fear of becoming emotionally involved and losing control, an online-dating milieu that privileges physical appearance above all, anxieties surrounding consent, and an uptick in the use of libido-busting antidepressants.
I generally jump to the defense of millennials, not just because I am one, but because I even know some.
“A lot of them are afraid that they’ll get into something they can’t get out of and they won’t be able to get back to their desk and keep studying.”As Michael Cunningham wrote, “You cannot find peace by avoiding life.” Sure, any attempt to have a life outside of work will keep you away from your desk.