Dating a control freak
However you should realize that no matter how many times you give in to your partner’s wishes and how understanding you try to be, unless you do something to defend your own self-worth and self-respect, no one else will. Unfortunately people trapped in long term relationships with controlling partners usually have had their independence and resources taken away from them early on so that they no longer have the courage to strike out on their own.A woman who may have succumbed to a whirlwind romance and quick marriage to a control freak may find herself a stay-at-home mom, unable to break out from an unhappy marriage due to lack of financial resources.You can read more posts from her, and other Singles Warehouse Experts, over on the Singles Warehouse blog. Be a Date Diva has been nominated My #1 tip for someone who’s dating a control freak is, try to understand ‘the why’ behind the things they do.Ask why they prefer one way over another; once they see how much you care and how you want to understand their ways, I bet they’ll be less likely to freak out and more likely to communicate in the future.Read more about how Nobody Wants To Date A Control Freak on the Singles Warehouse dating blog.The Online Date Coach is a dating expert #SWExpert for the Singles Warehouse dating site where she writes blog posts to help singles meet, date, and find someone special to love.
You may need to establish clear boundaries on what sort of behavior is and is not acceptable.So the first step in dealing with a control freak is to understand that you are not weak and incapable.The very fact that you have sensed that something is wrong means your faculties and intelligence are fine and not matter how much your partner bullies you into thinking that you are helpless without them, it is not so. A control freak lives two different lies – on the outside they are hugely social people, popular and vivacious in company while only those who know them well are familiar with the aggressive and hurtful nature that lies beneath the surface.Determining the lives of others gives them an illusion of a sense of control without which they cannot feel good about themselves. While a few may have the potential to wreck your sanity and self-worth, many of them may do little more than exercise their opinion on why you should avoid a certain food or dress.
Finally it is your call on whether you choose to try and work things out or leave an overbearing, controlling partner.This is one of the reasons why your friends and family may not understand your unhappiness in such a relationship and on the contrary praise your partner for the caring person he/she is.